Niceness is a Survival Strategy

If you are someone who has often been told that you are too nice to people, that you tolerate far more than you should, you have probably found yourself wondering whether you should finally lash out or continue being the person you are. You are conflicted because, deep down, you know you want to react, yet you also worry about coming across as impolite or crude. You do not want to hurt others, so you end up hurting yourself, which only breeds further frustration. The problem with being nice is not the behaviour itself but the reason behind it. Are you being courteous for its own sake, or because you do not want to be seen as a threat? Have you ever asked yourself what would happen if you simply reacted the way you genuinely wanted to? If you have ever been frustrated by being the nice guy, then you already know you have thought about it, and the answer makes you uncomfortable. So let us discuss the uncomfortable truth. You do not want to lose the label of being nice because that label…