Play Dead

We either trust people too soon or hesitate forever. As emotional beings, we have no instinct for balance. When we are frustrated, we voice our disapproval without a second thought. Almost too soon. That disapproval can then be twisted and turned against us. So we explain that we didn't mean it. That is an even worse strategy. Now you are forced to choose: either your word carries no weight, or you meant exactly what you said. Our deep distrust of people is nothing new. It is precautionary. A form of self-defence. But it deserves better handling. It is true that not everybody can be trusted. It is equally false to assume that nobody deserves your trust. There are always good people around. We are simply too afraid of the bad ones. Far more than we should be. The better way to deal with people is to never criticise them. Never. No matter what. Find a way to step into their shoes. Understand their point of view. Then find a way to echo their voice. If you can't, learn to offer a neutral…