The Paradox of the Likeable Loner

I have met a great many people through my work. I am, by and large, a likeable person. I don't voice harsh opinions, at least not at first. I have a decent sense of humour. I can take a joke at my own expense and crack a good one without giving offence. I can accommodate people who are different from me, or who hold opinions entirely opposed to mine. This ensures I am never short of people around me. However, I am not good at keeping them. I never carry the relationship into the next stage, where acquaintances become close friends. As long as we share an environment, whether an office, a university or a social circle, staying in touch comes easily. The moment I leave that context, sustaining those relationships becomes a struggle. Because of this habit, I have lost far too many people. People who were once close to me are now strangers. At times I regret the person I have become. I mourn every connection I have let slip. I have often wondered why I cannot invest in relationships. Am I…