Go for the Heart, Not the Jugular

We are always in a race to figure people out. We want to know quickly whether they are worth trusting. Whether we can rely on them. Whether they are who they say they are. Our first instinct is to distrust people, so we can protect ourselves from getting hurt. That is the whole game. Protecting ourselves. The need to trust someone stems from our desire to be vulnerable with them. To be honest with them. To share our rawest selves with them. So we can tell them what we truly feel and what we truly believe without being punished for it through harsh judgments. The race to figure people out is backwards. You can never figure out something that is constantly evolving. People change. There is nothing good or bad about it. It is the law of nature. Everything in nature is constantly changing. Nothing is stagnant. People are no different. You cannot completely measure something that is always changing. You will always be wrong. The shortcut to figuring someone out is judging them. By where…