Practice Living Without What You Love

You need to practice living without the things you love. If you love food, you need to fast for a day, or spend a week without indulging in your favorite dishes. If you cannot live without books, you should spend a month living without them. If you cannot live without someone, if you think you are addicted to someone, then you must definitely learn to live without them. Do things that do not involve them. You must experience the blank space in your head that emerges when you are forced to engage with uncomfortable things. It’s important to discover who you are without the things you depend on. Because when you love something so deeply, it starts to define who you are. A person doesn’t say they love trying new food, they say they are a foodie. That translates into an identity. The same goes for every other identity. Someone who enjoys reading wears the identity of a reader. Then they start to act out that identity. They refuse to find pleasure in doing meaningless things in life…