You Don’t Need Closure. You Need a New Obsession.

Your romantic obsession is a message that could be interpreted in more ways than you think. When you are obsessed with a person, you think that person has connected deeply with you. They have managed to touch strings in your heart that nobody could before. You make that person special in your mind by engaging in mindless scenarios and imaginary conversations. You make that person bigger than what they are, different from who they appeared to be. You start to live with that personality in your head and hope that reality matches that version. That’s romantic obsession with someone. People who become aware of this obsession realise that they are doing it out of some void. There’s something that they are missing, which they are trying to gain from this person. They engage with psychological theories, going from their childhood issues to schema therapy, trying to discover why they are particularly fond of that person. While awareness of the self is not a bad thing, reality can be dealt…