You Can't Fake Presence

The most common complaint between couples is that the attention is no longer the same as it used to be. One person becomes more focused on work than on their personal relationships. And you wonder why the other person feels this way because, from your perspective, you have been talking to them, laughing with them, and spending time together just as you always have. But beneath the surface, things have changed in ways you forget to notice. Everything good that happens between two people happens when they let down their guard. When they are one hundred percent present in the moment, sharing themselves with their significant other. When you are not fully present, your reactions become passive. They emerge from muscle memory rather than conscious attention. And people can sense that. It is not that complicated. That is why, when people are stressed, they cannot pretend at home no matter how hard they try. If you think you are good at hiding your stress at home, then perhaps you are not…