You Don't Choose Who You Fall For

You do not choose who you fall in love with. No matter what stage of life you're in. No matter how deeply loyal you are in your relationship. No matter how ethical you think you are. You have no control over who you fall for. It's so automatic, so natural, so evolutionarily wired that you can't even register it happening. It happens beneath your awareness. Through the unconscious. You can choose who you stay in a relationship with. Who you marry. Why you marry. How long you stay married. These are all pragmatic decisions. They require you to weigh a great deal. Starting with compatibility. Relationships are complicated because an entire machinery has to work for one to succeed. Love, on the other hand, is simple. People who think love only happens once. Or that it happened to them before and won't happen again. They are lying to themselves. They have shut every door on that possibility by neglecting themselves. They simply haven't met, in reality, the person they admire in their mind.…