You don't matter simply because you are connected to somebody. We all have relatives we are not close to. This is perhaps the most universal truth among us. Yet we never stop to ask why we are not close to certain people. What actually draws us toward some and not others. There is a difference between the love you earn and the love you receive as an extension. Your relatives love you as an extension of their love for your parents. If they resent your parents, they are unlikely to love you. Unless you have spent real time with them and they grew fond of you on their own terms. That is the love you earned. You become a distinct entity to them, not merely an extension. Your friends love you because you earned it. It is entirely your own doing. When you grow up and marry, you will experience a particular warmth from your in-laws. This is where you make the gravest blunder. You assume they love you for who you are. In truth, they love you as an extension, just like your other relatives do.…
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