How do you stop thinking, "I got lucky that time," and start thinking, "I survived that," instead?

The answer to this question might be somewhere if I dug into how one changes from a "fixed mindset" to a "growth mindset," but having not read the literature, I'm left asking this question to myself in my current constellation of thoughts. Current things I'm mulling over: 1.I've resumed reading How to Deal With Emotionally Explosive People by Albert J. Bernstein, which I started because I realized I was sinking so much time into placating people who were having emotional explosions, and I also felt that it might actually be impossible for me to survive in the event that someone actually did randomly just start cussing me out, which is always a random possibility when you talk to strangers. In other words, I came here for, "How can I do this better and not have to spend so much time?" and "How do I handle a situation I am very afraid of, even if it's unlikely?" and instead so far the whole section on explosions into fear felt like a minor callout for me. Things I'm contending with: I…