When you are a jerk

Like they say in The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and Janet Mills, when someone is awful to you, it’s more often than not, not about you at all. I suppose we can turn that on its head and say if you are angry–no, when you are nasty to someone for no good reason–it’s more about what’s going inside your head than what the person has done. It’s more about something that happened and your only recourse is to grow spiky barbs in order to protect something soft and hurt inside. It may be that you have done this so often that being a jerk is your main response mechanism, and I can see how you could get to that point. I know a few people who are jerks, and my feeling about them is that I don’t have any real desire to unravel them and figure out why they seem content to lash out at the world, spraying opinions like paintball spatter all over people who are trying to walk down the road in their metaphorical white boiler suits. I too have my soft squishy bits inside (or white boiler suit)…

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