Paul’s Sister’s 50th Birthday

Paul’s sister’s 50th birthday is coming up. On one hand, I would like to do something special for her—or really anything at all, special or no. On the other hand: 1. I resent that that seems to be EXCLUSIVELY MY DOMAIN, even though she is PAUL’S sister. I asked Paul for ideas TWICE, and both times he was unhelpful. And in case you think I mean he didn’t come up with ideas that I liked or whatever, let me clarify that he came up with zero ideas of any kind. He also had not remembered that this was her 50th, and in fact had to do the math out loud to validate my claim. 2. I mean, I’ll also note she did nothing for her brother’s 50th, literally nothing. But increasingly, based on his approach toward her over the decades, that seems fully fair. So maybe I should do nothing? Maybe I should leave the two of them to the relationship they seem to have chosen? But I feel a weight on our side of the balance scales. We have a better life in most measurable ways. She has SIGNIFICANTLY fewer…