When your values disagree with each other

The role is bigger, better paid, and in a city your partner does not want to live in. You have told three friends it is a career decision.It is not. It is a values decision.Growth against Family, both of them yours, which is why all the discussion in the world has led to nothing.Right against wrong gets resolved very quickly. Right against right can take a lot longer.The order is the decisionMost tough career decisions are two of your own values in conflict. They will not resolve because there is no wrong answer to find, only a ranking to settle on and admit to yourself.Step Three of the Values Finder is the real test. You examine your values pair by pair until a real stack rank appears. It is the closest thing to a tiebreaker available, and it forces you to choose between things you would otherwise struggle to separate.The order you actually live by is often not the order that comes out of the exercise. That gap is the dilemma.Pros and cons assume one scaleA pros and cons list weighs…