charisma is embracing your uniqueness

someone who keeps to themselves and is a little hard to read can seem really interesting from afar. when you don't know much about someone, there's room to imagine all sorts of things about them. then you get to know them and realize that maybe it wasn't them you found so interesting. maybe it was just the fact that you didn't know them. i think real charisma is something else. it's when people are comfortable being themselves, even when that means being a little different from what people expect. they don't try to make themselves more likable or turn every part of themselves into something other people can appreciate. they just are who they are. you can usually tell the difference by how you feel around someone. with some people, you find yourself thinking about everything you say. there is an unspoken expectation. you wonder if you're being interesting enough, if you're responding the right way, if they even like you. and with some, you don't really think about any of that. you can…