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This one does not look like being stuck.You are progressing, you've had two promotions in three years. Bigger scope, better title, a team that grew. When people ask how it is going you have something to point at, and it is all true.You are also, if you are honest, running very hard towards something you cannot remember choosing.Ask most people what success looks like and the answer comes straight back. Fluent, specific, no hesitation at all. Ask where the definition came from and the pause is often longer than the first answer.Inherited definitions never feel inheritedA definition set by somebody else does not arrive labelled as inherited. It gets absorbed early, usually from a parent, a first manager, or an industry that only rewards one shape of career and mentions it constantly. By the time you are running on it, it does not feel like a preference. It feels like it is 'what a serious person does'.This is exactly why it is hard to spot. You are not carrying somebody else's goal…

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