Where do AI norms come from?

After I posted “Confessions of an Unrepentant Slop Snob” on LinkedIn last week, with links to the Honeycomb AI norms and values docs, I got this question from Niklas Lochschmidt:I am curious if you could share more light on the process? Any guidance you would give people in companies that have the friction and internal debates, but maybe haven’t arrived at shared norms and values yet?That’s a great question, and I will answer in just a minute.I feel like this is a great way to kick off something I’ve been looking forward to all year — an old fashioned bloggy dialogue between myself and Dr Cat Hicks, research psychologist to the stars engineers, on the topic of norms, ethics, and learning in the era of AI. In which Cat and I were both writing books at the same time When Cat’s publisher reached out to me in November of 2025 about reviewing her book, “The Psychology of Software Teams”, I .. didn’t notice the email for a month, then put off reading it for another two months, because I was…