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You want to leave. You have wanted to leave since roughly February. You have talked it over with your partner, twice with a friend who did the same thing three years ago, once with a former manager over coffee, and last week with somebody you barely know at a wedding.Every one of those conversations was useful. Not one of them changed the answer.The last two weeks were about not being able to see the problem. This is the opposite. You can see it perfectly well. What you cannot see is how to pay for it, and not all of that is money.Who are you obligated to?I put this question to people more than any other, and it almost never gets a quick answer. There is usually a long pause. Then something arrives that surprises the person saying it.Hardly anybody says their manager.A lot of people, eventually, name something that is not a person at all. One of the most common is a CV. You do not want the gap on it. You do not want the sideways step, the smaller title, the year that is awkward to…