when what mattered before stops mattering

when something major happens in our lives, one of the biggest things we take away from it is a clearer sense of what is actually important in life. i believe an open and trusting heart is the best companion through it. if we come out of it with a heart that is not bitter, but a little wiser, something strange happens. we suddenly realize that some of the things we cared so much about before don't seem that important anymore. things that once occupied our minds start to feel distant, or even meaningless. we get to know ourselves better. we start making choices that feel more aligned with who we are, and we become aware of parts of ourselves we hadn't given much space to before. even though some of these experiences are painful, one thing i like about life is that i feel like our souls have the capacity to expand endlessly, and every experience has the potential to stretch our corners and open up new dimensions within us.