Connection, Growth, and loud ideas

Connection takes work Bad relationships are common, and good relationships are hard. Should that be a surprise to us? Being close and connecting with other people challenges every facet of our soul. - Stillness is the Key Page 143 I don't think anyone starts a relationship thinking they'll have a bad one. That they'll succumb to the siren call of ease, not talking about hard things, skipping connection because it requires part of you given to someone else. We start relationships hopeful, that we'll find deep connection. Then we start focusing on the selfishness of our partner, while overlooking our own selfish acts, deeming them normal1. I don't remember where I saw it this week, but the gist of the question was, what will you and your spouse be after the kids have left? You've given so much to the kids over the decades they've been with you. It's likely that in the midst of this giving you've stopped really engaging with your partner about anything outside of logistics. While my…