My Charity Donation Rule | Parents VS Outsiders

Lately, I am raising funds for one year worth of English tuition fees for the Mon Refugee School. As I collect funds, I would randomly ask the donner whether they have bought their parents any meals or gave them any money lately. If the answer is yes, I ask how much? If the amount is higher than the money donated for the school, I will accept the full amount. If the amount is lower than the money for the school, I will ask the donner to match the difference for their parents. If the parents have never received anything, I return the money and ask the donner to give it to their parents. Obviously, I will never know whether they are telling me the truth. And why I have to create so many barriers for myself and the school? I always feel that charity begins from home. All parents deserve the best from their children. Outsiders no matter how critical, own parents should come first. Is this selfish? Yes, it is. If many would focus on their parent's first, many of the world's problem will…