Side note re: Seeking a partner

Seen a few posts about this recently. One reason people fail to get or stay connected is because they conflate these two: I want a person who is/has…(whatever your list is). Reducing people to data points and implied promises draws people who are probably doing the same thing to you. Fine if you’re both cool with it. I want this person. The one for whom data points and self-created rules are irrelevant. I think most of us want to find, and be, that person. Seen a lot of heartbreak when one person is all in for the other, while the other is “but your data points…” Good luck out there.