standing shoulder to shoulder talking into the void

This is often how I feel about discord servers or other online communities. Are we having a conversation with each other or is everyone just stating their own thoughts without reading or considering what the person before them sent? I think I feel this most when one message is sent, no one responds, then someone comes in with a new topic and it sparks up a conversation. Am I supposed to say "Hi, I am sending this message because I want to engage you in what I'm thinking about, please respond to this!" Am I just taking this all incredibly personally when it literally isn't about me at all? (Who am I to demand the attention of other people, especially when I think I do a pretty bad job of giving my attention to others too). So instead I end up lurking and reading most of the time, which only adds to my feeling of being on the outskirts. Maybe we all just don't know how to talk to each other anymore. Or maybe no one else feels this way and I've just got some kind of complex that I've…