You Can't Change Your Parents. Stop Trying

My relationship with my father has always been unstable. As I was growing up, I have always been the "good boy". Every aspect of my life was his design. He even tried to influence my children. I never dare to say no to him, but the resentment builds within me. Eventually everything boiled over in my early 40s. We did not have a fall out; I decided to do what I see and feel is correct. Many times, his words, his actions become my problems as I need to undo the damage or maintain peace at home. I know he grew up dirt poor and is the first family member to graduate from university. During his prime, all family decisions go through him, he even has a say over his siblings' family. As the family grows, he loses his influence. I am sure he wants the best for the family, but no one listens to him anymore. I have given up on trying to change him and convince him not to meddle with other's people life. Or give sharp comments over someone's life decision. I can only accept his actions and…