Feeling violated, and maybe it's my fault

I briefly dated a guy from a dating app earlier this month. While I'm not looking for a life partner at the moment, I still struggle with feeling like I'm too picky. But on paper this seemed like a good match: we're both well educated and progressive, and we have a similar sense of humor and taste in music. He was down to text via Signal and was always super responsive. We even have similar roots, and I appreciated that he knows about the places that interest me. Finally, just because the bar is so low these days, it must be mentioned that he is not Republican, nor did he invalidate any of my life experiences. All green flags! It ended up not working out, much to his surprise and even a bit to my own. The physical chemistry just wasn't there. What started with a sloppy kiss on the second date that I shrugged off because he was slightly drunk just went further downhill by date four when I agreed to go to his place to watch a World Cup match because, well, I was willing to give things a…