Learning to break the rules</h1>

When I was a young boy I played cards with my friend and his Sicilian father. Dad would cheat. He’d palm cards, fudge the score, take extra turns. When I got to age 9 I realized he was cheating and I was so mad. Cheating was wrong! I realized much later that he was teaching us a lesson. That while it might be wrong, sometimes people will cheat you. He taught us to recognize being cheated. When I was 15 I applied for a job at the local grocery store. Part of the hiring process was a test for produce codes. I had not memorized them, I went to the beach instead. I was screwed. But someone else had brought a cheat sheet and offered it to me. I was shocked, cheating was unethical! I declined and I did not get the job. The finale of Heartstopper has a nice moment of queer solidarity. Charlie can’t get permission from the school to start an LGBT club. His art teacher offers to help and says “historically, us queers have never asked for permission to exist.” It’s an important lesson in…