A place of certainty

My mother is 86, and she is declining. Things that used to be easy for her now seem completely foreign. She was a programmer, writing software before I could read, so it is very strange to see her like this.She no longer uses a computer. If I mention some photos I found online, she asks if there’s any way she can see them, as if she has never used the internet. This is a new reality for me, but is easier than a year or two ago when she still tried to be constantly online. As things got more confusing for her, she struggled and complained “the computer is haunted.” Now she doesn’t have the computer as a source of friction, but also not as a center of activity.In many ways, she is following a similar path to her own mother, my Grandma O. Like her, my mom is accepting the changes in her relationship to the world. She is able to laugh at it a bit. But it will still be difficult, especially because we know it is a progression that is not going to get better and will very likely get…