Love is a verb

The difference in our perception of people we love is that we assume good intent. Every quirk, every friction — we interpret it charitably. The wider we expand that circle of assumed good intent, the more likely we are to find community wherever we choose to spend time. And it’s why love is a verb. Especially in relationships that have lasted a long time, it’s easy to forget to choose it. To fall into patterns where all we see are the quirks, all we feel is the friction. Reminding ourselves of the intent takes real commitment. It is why it takes commitment and character to consistently choose to love.