Adult Friendships

It’s often more difficult making friend as adults because we have fewer sources of random serendipity through which we might meet a compatible person. We also have more and stronger opinions and preferences as we get older. So while anyone roughly our age would have made for a fine companion when we were 5, when we’re adults, our filters are tighter and our tendency to nope our way out of potential friend situations is higher (there are fewer compatible people, because our sense of ‘compatible’ becomes more stringent as we age). As we get older, there are also more stresses, strains, responsibilities, and other priorities competing for our time, energy, and resources. As kids, we could go hang out with another kid all day long because that’s what our time was for. As adults, we have our own kids or pets or partners or parents to take care of; we have bills to pay and lower backaches to tend to; we’re worried about politics and the state of the world and the security of our romantic…