Retroactive Anger In Breakups

Breakups are filled with very complicated feelings, a lot of them a sort of reaction to the recontextualization or processing of past events in a new light unfettered by your affection for the other person, and perhaps even motivated by contempt, righteous or unrighteous. Some of these feelings may have or almost certainly will have been felt during the relationship, but it’s only when you start to pull off the rose tinted glasses that you may be seeing more objectively or just in a new light. You may be angry at how they treated you, but also mad at yourself for allowing that treatment to occur or for undergoing it for so long. You can be mad at yourself for not standing up for yourself while also realizing and understanding that no one should be treated poorly, especially by a loved one. Maybe you are angry you could just be confused or embarrassed with how you acted and how much of yourself you gave up or compromised. You might not recognize the person that you were in the…