misogyny in the blogosphere

I struggle with how humiliating it feels to talk about and point out misogyny; how the general regression into conservative values makes addressing misogyny come across as a last resort card you can pull out to make yourself look like a victim or get brownie points, while vilifying someone else. Like a thing you only do if you have no better arguments and want to shut discussion down, as the only people coming to challenge you further are seen (or even are) misogynists who don’t believe you. It feels like it’s sucking all the air out of the room, and people begin to tiptoe. So much about identifying and calling out covert misogyny is about prior experience and gut feelings and hypotheticals, which makes it so hard; because overt, obvious misogyny is rarely worth a discussion and is a lot less controversial to name. It’s exactly those edge cases of this would have been fine for me to do or say if I was a man they wouldn’t have done this if I was a man this would have been more…