It took me a staggeringly long time to make the connection between my favoured group size of three people and my having two siblings. The three of us are my OG group. We fully have each other's backs. Much to my parents' dismay sometimes. They wanted us to be close... they got a rock-solid unit that outnumbered them. Whoops. So this is my default mode of how groups are. Put me in a group - of any size - and it's instant loyalty. I'm super "We're all in this together." This instinct has survived all sorts of calamitous group situations that have been very much the opposite. Despite that it's still how I approach groups, how I assume they will be. I'm always looking for that safety and security in a group and in a way that makes me easier to burn. I've taken it real personal before, without entirely understanding why. When there's conflict within a group it throws me for a loop because to me that's not what groups do. Except that is in fact a very common, natural, and normal thing for…
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